When we step out of the boxes people place us in—the confines we once lived in—we disrupt their perception of reality. Humans are creatures of habit, and breaking those habits without their consent or control can stir unhealed wounds about how they believe relationships should be. In those moments, they either look within and grow alongside you, or project their discomfort onto you.
If your growth makes others uncomfortable, don’t question your reality. Don’t gaslight yourself into believing you’re the problem just because people around you begin to drift away or distance themselves. This is the transitional phase—the confrontational time—when you’re faced with a choice: stay in the comfort of familiarity out of fear of being alone, rejected, or abandoned, or step boldly into your growth.
It’s in that solitude that you uncover a deeper love for yourself. And in doing so, you create space for new, aligned souls to enter your life—connections that are more vibrant, magnetic, and fulfilling than you’ve ever experienced.
Outgrowing one person in your circle often means you’re outgrowing many, because the people around you reflected who you were at that time. Don’t let the pull of the majority drag you back into the box you’ve outgrown. Trust your growth. Trust your instincts. The connection you’re building with yourself is worth every transition.
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